Jun 26, 2018

The Role of Mother’s: Insights and tips on how mothers contribute to social-emotional-cognitive (SEC) learning

Mothers are most often the primary caregiver who support their children’s physical, emotional, mental and social development. As such, it is no surprise that mothers play a significant role in every aspect of their children’s growth. We at Dolphin Under 5 want to recognize and strengthen the maternal role and relationship that contribute to social-emotional-cognitive (SEC) learning in their children.

Children often take reference from their mothers when it comes to the expression, understanding and coping with emotions. Even early in infancy, your child can already express themselves emotionally through their body language, vocalizations and facial expressions. When mothers respond with positive emotions, infants begin to regulate their emotions and gain a sense of predictability, safety and responsiveness in their environments, that will eventually contribute to a sense of self-confidence as they grow up.

Provide a positive role model of emotional regulation through your behavior and through the verbal and emotional support you offer your child when managing their emotions. Don’t be afraid to apologise to your child if you have lost your cool and reacted in an inappropriate way to a situation. Use feeling words when you talk with children about everyday situations, “You scored a goal! How exciting was that!”; or “It’s pretty disappointing that your friend can’t play with you today.” Invite children to describe their own feelings, “I’m feeling quite nervous about going to the dentist. How about you?”, or “when I am angry, I try to take a few deep breaths to calm down.” Demonstrate and explain to your child how to identify, label and manage emotions in a calm and helpful manner.

When young children are able to experience, express and manage emotions, they are equipped with the ability to establish positive and rewarding social connections with others. Positive emotions enable relationships to form, while struggles with expressing and coping with emotions leads to problems in social relationships. Research has also indicated that a mother’s advice and guidance about peer relationships significantly reduces aggression in boys, while improving girls’ prosocial behaviours, i.e., helping, sharing, caring and collaborating with others. In other words, social competence improves with mother’s coaching and positive responsiveness.

Talk to your child about how people’s feelings, beliefs, wants and intentions to improve your child’s social understanding and empathy. Use TV shows, movies or story books to talk to your child about what the characters may be feeling as a result of what others do. There are also many teachable moments available everyday. For example, if you notice your child being refusing to share his toys with a friend, you can say, “That makes him sad when you choose not to share,” instead of just saying, “stop it,” or “don’t do that”.

Research has shown that a mother’s EF, e.g., short-term memory, self-control, and cognitive flexibility contribute to their child’s development of EF.  In other words, high level cognitive tasks, including planning, problem solving and decision-making are essentially EF. For example, when a child shows an undesirable behavior, a mother has to use her EF skills to focus on relevant information, control her response in the presence of her own stress, plan and act as necessary according to situational demands. Rather than having negative or hasty reactions, she has to analyse the various situations through logic and emotions to plan and make decisions.

Besides role-modelling EF skills as a parent, you can teach and encourage your child to develop their own plans as they encounter new experiences –  for everything from celebrations (e.g., creating a plan to make a birthday fun and meaningful) to the most difficult of life’s challenges (e.g., creating a plan to remember the loss of a loved one). Let them practice writing out their plans, and then trying to execute and when necessary, adjust their plans. Set a few guidelines and try to allow them to explore as much as possible (Be a DOLPHIN Parent!) without overly correcting them or imposing your ideas on them. This way, children are given opportunities to integrate the key systems of the brain that boosts EF.

From the above, we caught a glimpse into how each aspect of SEC development in young children are supported by their relationship with their mothers. However, because mothers have such great influence on her child’s well-being, they too, feel often blamed for the way the child turns out. As such, mothers carry the burden of the responsibility of caregiving, which includes the struggle of dealing with expectations from themselves and others. Therefore, it is always important to remember that as a parent, you are also every bit as human and hence, will make mistakes from time to time. Children do not need to grow up in a “perfect” environment, rather they need to experience, understand and learn from how you adapt to problems and deal with your struggles too.

Mar 31, 2018

Becoming a Successful Parent through Future Fit Learning

Contemporary parenting is hard! Bombarded with expert advices & societal expectations, we have an ‘information overload’ because of an increased access to understanding how others parent. Just when we think we’ve got it ‘right’ someone will cast doubt into our minds, because what is right for some is not right for others. Indeed, the responsibility of raising healthy, happy, successful future-fit children can sometimes feel overwhelming for parents.

Add to this the fact that the dynamics of education, learning, work and living is changing. It may be a truism that the future will be different, but with rapid development of artificial intelligence and digital systems in the 21st Century, I see no reason to not believe that almost every aspect of our children’s lives will be different to ours.

So, when we know that the future of work & life is going to look very different, why not be ready for it? Why not prepare our children to be future-fit?

With a vision to transform learning and raising future-ready kids, at Dolphin POD key 21st century skills like Creativity, Critical thinking, Communication, Contribution & Collaboration are delivered with an aim to make personal and professional achievement easier.

Through their research-based activities, it’s not only children who cultivate these 5 critical life skills to be future fit, but also Parents get ample opportunities to be successful in raising children who are future ready. Here’s how:

 

 

  1. Match your Parenting style to your child’s personality

A critical aspect of parenting is matching various strategies with your child’s needs, like discipline, praise etc. Naturally, most parents try to understand these ‘needs’ of their children, but it’s not always easy to figure out, especially when behavioural, emotional and social ingredients (read: problems) come into the picture. POD sessions, conducted at Dolphin POD, that focus on essential 21st century skills and cover collaborative play and interactive activities help parents know how best to stimulate their child’s intellectual, social and emotional development and manage common parenting issues.

 

  1. Learn how to Engage with your child

 

Families today face increasing time pressures with both parents working, and more expectations on children to perform at school (not to forget the added distractions of technology). Well, welcome to modern parenting! With budgeted time and limited opportunities, an effective way of helping our children to be future ready is by understanding how to maintain a constructive engagement with them. From learning through exploring to connecting with each other to relaxing & recharging, POD sessions can help you learn explore the broader horizon in your child’s learning curve and will let you get more involved in your child’s learning experience.

  1. Gain Confidence

 

Let’s face it- being a parent requires a whole lot of mustering courage. In fact, confidence is crucial to good parenting. And it is equally critical in raising future-fit children. Through research-based activities conducted at Dolphin POD, as a Parent you get confidence in the exposure and activities your child experiences, so you can telegraph that confidence to kids.

 

  1. Stay updated of the latest Research

 

As a busy parent, it can be hard to stay up-to-date on the latest scientific findings, but it’s so important to learn what you should be doing to set your children future ready. Research findings, scientific discoveries etc. pave path for good parenting skills and help finding answers.

At Dolphin POD, the 90-minute POD sessions are coupled with one-on-one sessions with parents to keep them updated not just about their child’s performance but also helps Parents stay abreast of discoveries and latest findings. One not only gets to learn about best parenting practices from experts but also get a chance to ask them their parenting concerns and questions.

Over the years, one thing has remained same when it comes to Parenting: there is immense pressure to keep up with the unrealistic and often unhealthy expectations that we, as parents, put on ourselves and feel from others. Some of these pressures have always been a part of the parenting journey, but there continues to be more and more pressure bombarding parents today.

Now amidst all this, wouldn’t it be comforting to have someone’s undivided attention, especially when you’re pouring out your heart and unpacking all the layers. With the age-specific after-school activities offered at Dolphin POD, you can be assured of your child’s development in the right environment and ideal direction to grow up as healthy, happy and successful adults of the 21st century.

 

To know more on this, ‘click here’.

 

Mar 06, 2018

Ways to help kids overcome fear of failure

 

You have cooed, cuddled and coddled your babies since birth and raised them with tags like Superman or Power Puff Girl. Well, to every parent their child is the winner!

But then there comes the time of reality check- your little one is growing up, getting familiar with the school of hard knocks. From not winning fancy dress competition to failing getting a grip on the bicycle

to forgetting his lines at the school play…It’s hard to see your little champ fail & get hurt.

As parents, we want to protect our children from anyone or anything that could cause them pain: illness, injury, hurtful words or situations. In a way, we don’t want them to feel the pain associated with failing because we know how it feels. As an over-protective loving parent you want nothing more than to intervene and make his troubles go away. However, we also know that the best lessons in life are learned through experience. If we don’t let them fall, how will they learn how to get back up? And if we don’t let them fail, how will they learn to pick themselves up and try again?

The process of making and learning from mistakes is an extremely valuable life skill because learning involves risking. Every time children risk, they will not always be right. But, because they’ve tried something new, there’s always the chance they will succeed. Each new success enhances self-esteem. Each esteem-enhancing experience refuels their desire to try again and again and again.

 

Going back to our own childhood, I am sure you would agree that fear of failure ties down the mind. It makes a child mentally weak and tired. In fact, it can make them incapable of achieving anything in life, even though they are capable of reaching the highest levels of success.

But then avoiding failure in life is almost impossible, right?

So how can we as parents help erase the idea that ‘mistakes are bad’? How can we maintain that thin line between protecting our kids from pain and teaching them to handle it; between supporting them where they are and challenging them to stretch themselves; between encouraging them to ‘play to win’ and preparing them to handle failure.

 

 

  1. Redefine the Meaning of failure

Instead of making it sound big, scary and end-of-life kind of situation, show your children that failure is more about self-development than about defeat. Start drilling this into them from an early age, so that it’s the rule rather than the exception in their books. Introduce the concept of ‘trial & error’ and ‘learning & adapting’ in every activity kids indulge in, whether it’s sports, art, music, learning to eat, writing, talking and walking.

How about defining failure as ‘not trying’? As Parents one can stress upon the fact that the only way to fail is to not try. As parents of today, redefine the meaning of failure for kids as-

  • Cheating, lying, not taking responsibility for themselves is failure.
  • Not giving their best effort or not doing what is in their interest is failure.
  • Looking out for short cuts to do work or getting influenced by peer pressure Is failure.
  • Disrespecting elders, not being empathetic to others and being selfish is failure.

 

  1. Encourage self-sufficiency
    Today’s overprotective, failure-avoiding parenting has undermined the competence, independence and academic potential of an entire generation. I’m as guilty as most of you- I’ve extended my children’s dependence in order to feel good about my parenting. Something as basic as lacing up their shoes to packing their school bag sends the message to your child that they’re slow and incompetent. So instead of being a savior, be a guide for your child. This will build self-confidence and bring happiness when one is able to see one’s achievements through trying and learning from mistakes or obtaining what was deemed impossible.
  1. Develop the concept of “Plan B”

Let’s face it- one of the inevitable facts of life is that everyone makes mistakes. But we know that there always exists a worst-case scenario. Start practicing this with your child. Sit and brainstorm together for “what if” situations. Ask them questions- “What if you fumble while reciting the poem…or miss the goal, what’s the worst thing that could happen?”. Eventually kids learn the skill of handling a situation with aseveral possible ways out.

  1.  Encourage Positive Self-talk

Fear of failure is a psychological phenomenon. In such a case, encouraging and positive words help raise self-confidence and motivation. That works like nutritious tonic to your children. If you notice your child is very tense and concerned about making mistakes, help him/her learn to say inside his/her head a positive, affirming statement such as ‘I am calm and in control’ or ‘I will try my best’. The more your child says the statement, the more he/she will begin to believe it.

More Self-talk phrases can be: “I can do it”; “I am capable”; “I have the ability”; “I am as good as my classmates”.

  1.  Have Conversations about Success and Failure of Famous Personalities

    Did you know Theodor Seuss Geisel, better known as Dr. Seuss, had his first book rejected by 27 different publishers? Well, look around and you would see the most successful adults are rarely those whose childhood were one long string of victories, accolades and gold stars. Rather they’re people who’ve had their share of bumps, bruises and battles along their path to adulthood. With grit, confidence and clear vision, they stretched and went beyond failures to pursue their dreams. Talk about such personalities with your kids. See documentaries, TED Talks and make them believe that failure is an event not a person.Have Conversations about Success and Failure of Famous Personalities

As parents, we’re wired with an inbuilt desire to protect our children from the harder realities of life whether the sting of rejection or the disappointment of failure. But left unchecked, this can deprive them from learning the most important life skill, and one they will inevitably need: how to find the courage and motivation to get back up. So how do you help kids fail, or rather, how do you help kids deal with fear of failure?

When learning a new skill, like public speaking or playing chess, there are many steps children may find difficult to execute. If we allow them to struggle and let them fail, we may be surprised to discover they can find a solution themselves. At Dolphin POD, the activities are designed to provide an appropriate level of challenge. Activities that shouldn’t frustrate children and offer a balanced approach towards learning with elements of Play (P), Others (O) & Downtime (D). This gives them a sense of accomplishment they can be proud of and can call their own.

The more children try, fail, and try again, the more they will learn how to solve problems, overcome adversity and to deal with failure; all critical life skills that will be needed to grow up as happy, healthy and successful beings.

By RoopikaSareen (Parenting blogger- Go Mommy)

Jan 27, 2018

Unique After School Activities you Must Try for Your Child

As the school academic year comes close to end, many parents are thinking not only about the new classes and syllabus, but also what their kids will do after school. And why not?  Keeping your child occupied in the time between school and bedtime is one of the biggest challenges facing a parent today. And undoubtedly, the time children spend after school deeply influences their development.

After-school activities offer opportunities for kids to learn new skills, explore different areas of talent, deepen existing expertise, get support for areas they aren’t as strong in, make friends, and form relationships with supportive adults.

From Public Speaking to art & crafts- there’s an after school activity out there for every child. And the best thing about them is they’re brilliant for all sorts of reasons- not just learning a new skill. So if you want to let your child’s creative instincts fly, improve their social spirit or get them active in fitness, check out these unique after school activities that you must try for your child.

Unique after school activities you must try for your child

1.  Meditation

Meditation

Think about it. How many times you say it to yourself that it’s hard to be Parents in today’s times? Probably several times, right? But is it okay to ignore the fact that it’s equally difficult being a kid today! Children deal with so many distractions, temptations and overstimulation. So why not give them the best gift of their life- something which they will cherish lifelong and be grateful, for it will change their life for the better. A simple yet very effective technique called Meditation – one of the most valuable skills we can teach our children.

  • Regular practice of meditation has several beneficial effects on our children’s emotional, mental and intellectual development.
  • Designated ‘Downtime’ lets the child focus and enhance attention span by not doing anything! By just sitting around & listening to music or staring at the ceiling looking at beautiful mandalas, it’s a wonderful way to manage stress and work on emotional wellness. This is a superb way to let the children tune into themselves, reflect own thoughts, reset their minds and bodies.
  • Studies have also found that meditation is a wonderful medium to improve behavior, focus and reduce impulsiveness.

2.  Story Telling

Story Telling

We all love stories! There’s a magic weaved around a good story.

  • It improves the listening, speaking and overall language skills of a child and encourages creativity.
  • Also, Storytelling is a unique way of teaching them about life, values, develop an understanding, respect and appreciation for other cultures, and can promote a positive attitude to people from different lands, races and religions.
  • Actually I would say of all the benefits of storytelling- of connecting children with far-flung places, extraordinary people and eye-opening situations- I think the most wonderful fact is that it connects children with their creativity. In a way Storytelling is an important piece of the literacy puzzle. No wonder from babyhood to the early teens, children have an innate love of stories and thus sparing some after-school time in a story telling workshop is totally worth the effort and time!

3.  Outdoor Activities/ Sports

Teamwork, trust, fitness, confidence, strength- these are just a few of the traits that children can learn with Sports & Outdoor activities.

  • Exposing your child to various activities like rock climbing, hurdle jump, tug-of-war etc boost a child’s social, emotional and intellectual quotient.
  • Physical activity helps reduce stress and anxiety.
  • While playing in the green outdoors, children observe nature first hand. They look at things beyond the screens.
  • From- learning to take turns on the slide to making decisions while making teams to dodging the hurdles in a race- kids benefit from every aspect of outdoor play.
  • Competitive sports are also great for learning difficult life lessons like being a gracious winner – and loser.

4.  Listening to TED Talks!

Well, who says extra curricular activities need to be only about “doing” or “creating” something? At times children need plain inspiration too and trust me, in today’s times there is nothing easier and better than exposing kids to TED Talks.

  • It works as an excellent medium for children to better grasp topics they might not fully understand at first glance.
  • The topics and discussions help the child think critically about how they think about the world, and discuss other big ideas alongside their own academics. In a way TED Talks make us pause and listen to the percolation of ideas- art, engineering, technology, the humanities, spoken word and more.
  • With the wide area of topics covered, they can create the spark necessary to stay creative lifelong for a child. What better than inspiring kids with the story of people who achieved fascinating projects, often guided by passion!

The idea of an after-school activity is not just to keep restless kids busy or entertained. They offer great developmental benefits that will help them academically and socially. Also, for working parents, after-school activities are often more than a luxury with an assurance of safe, supervised structured place where kids can spend time some time doing their most important job of all: being a kid!

But in the midst of all this if you ever felt that you’ve somehow become your kid’s personal chauffeur, constantly ferrying them to numerous after-school activities, you’re not alone. And you’re totally forgiven for wondering whether all those activities are more hassle than they’re worth.

 

How about having a one-stop-solution to this? A place that offers variety of age-relevant activities that aim at making children smarter, healthier, happier and better equipped to operate in the constantly evolving ambitious and cohesive society.

At Dolphin POD, we believe that after school activities that are carefully designed to enable all round development of children help teach the key 21st Century skills of Creativity, Collaboration, Communication, Critical Thinking and Contribution which in turn are the building blocks for a happy, successful and meaningful life.

And somewhere if you see, as parents, that’s all we desire- we want our kids to stay positive and active after school and at the same time have peace of mind that they’re in a safe environment.

Dolphin POD is a world class-learning centre that provides a fun, interactive and inspiring education unlike anything children receive anywhere else.

To know more about Dolphin POD and their philosophy, click here.

Source: Go Mommy!

Jan 19, 2018

How to Help Your Child Deal with Shyness

Dr Shimi K Kang (author and psychiatrist)

Shyness is completely normal in children and most of the times nothing at all to worry about. In fact, a new study conducted by the University of Colorado and the University of Connecticut examined shyness. They found that shy children know the answer to questions just as often as outgoing kids, but they are just not as eager to state the answer out loud. However, if shyness interferes with what a child wants to do — like play a game, or interferes with what the child needs to do — such as give a presentation at school, parents can help kids overcome it.

Start with displaying some empathy for your child — which means putting yourself in your kid’s shoes. Let them know you understand how they feel and you are not mad or disappointed in them for being shy. Perhaps state something like, “When I was a kid, I was shy too. I remember sometimes it was no fun and got in the way of things I wanted to do. Sometimes I even get shy now.”

Then ask if they would like your help in dealing with it. This will lead the child to feel in control and take ownership of their problem rather than becoming accustomed to you swooping in and solving problems for them.

Simply ask them, “Do you want me to help you deal with this problem?”

Your child will likely say yes, so the best way to make your child learn something fast is to have fun with it — try coming up with ideas together or a role play!Encourage your child to think of ways they might handle a situation that makes her nervous: “If you feel nervous at school, what could you do to make yourself less nervous? Could you hang out with one of the kids you feel most comfortable with? Could you offer to help the teacher? What do you think you might talk about if your teacher asks you a question?

A role-play is like acting and it helps your child practice situations where they may feel shy before they happen.

Brainstorm different scenarios where your child may feel shy — for example they become shy when saying “thank you” to the host after the last birthday party they attended. First, ask your child to show you how they would say thank you next time, then praise them for what they did right and offer to correct them where they need some help. Teach them social skills like how to look somebody in the eye, project their voice, and say thank you with confidence. Have your child practice this and you can pretend you are different parents who react in different ways to your child’s thank you.

Do this type of role-play in other areas where your child may be most shy. When you notice that they are being shy in real life, encourage them to act exactly how they practiced. If they could use more practice, then just try it again.

If your child is shy about making friends, try to provide daily opportunities for interacting with others. For example, your child doesn’t have to be interesting to others, just interested in others. Teach him or her to ask other kids questions about their lives and listen to their answers.

Of course, try your best to always model confident behaviour with other people. If you are ever shy yourself, point this out to your child and tell them what strategies you are using to overcome your own shyness. Kids learn the most from watching their parent’s behaviours!

Displaying empathy, role playing and probing the kids are essential ways that prove helpful in bringing out their personality and shaping it in a positive manner.

Dolphin POD program is tailored in a way that it brings out the best in children via its unique curriculum and educationist who help kids understand the importance of saying out their mind loud. Along with this, trained psychologist provide parents with ways to deal with kid’s behavior and instilling the qualities that are important for a healthy and successful living.

Jan 12, 2018

Eight Ways to Make Public Speaking Easier for Your Child

Butterflies in stomach, sweaty palms, shivers down the spine- well, you would certainly know by now what I am talking about! If you are wondering why your otherwise confident, outgoing child goes in a freeze-mode when all eyes are on her, read further to know ways to make public speaking easier for your child.

Compelling, confident public speaking is a crucial skill that is often overlooked and under-developed in a child’s formative years, yet it can strongly impact how your child views themselves and how they develop and succeed. A self-assured child who can effectively address their classmates or an audience is likely to be seen in a more positive light by their peers and develop a stronger sense of self. Being able to speak confidently in front of a group of people is a valuable skill.

Frankly, aren’t we wired to be impressed by those who can express themselves better? Those children who can’t express themselves effectively are unfortunately left behind.

But as a parent, you can play an active role in assisting your child to survive and even thrive in these pressure-packed situations.

Here are 8 ways to make public speaking easier for your child:-

 

1.Give Wait Time

Give Wait Time

Most of the time we don’t give enough time to the child to respond and jibe in to finish what we intend to say. Now this works as a double sided sword. It not only breaks the flow of thoughts of the child in framing a sentence/response but also breaks the child’s confidence.

A great rule of thumb is to pause for at least 5-10 seconds for your child to answer. It gives your child time to process what they want to say.

 

2.Don’t Over Correct your Child

Over correcting is the exact opposite way of how to improve communication skills. The more you demand they say something right, the worse it may likely get.

 

3.Treat Your Child as a Full Communication Partner

Treat Your Child as a Full Communication Partner

Sounds tricky, right? That’s where you need to strike a balance. You need to talk to them as if they are adults but still remember they are children. ‘Talking with them like an adult’ doesn’t mean use adult vocabulary or information they won’t understand. It means take turns, use eye contact, and value what they say.

Don’t talk to them in baby talk all the time. It’s O.K. every now and again, but after they are about 10 months old, try to limit how much you do it.

It’s common among younger children to talk gibberish, which you don’t understand, but again, take your turn, make the best guess about what they are trying to convey and respond accordingly….even if you’re not sure what they’re talking about.

 

4.Practice Emotions

Practice Emotions

An important component of effective communication is the tone. Show your child that the same set of words can carry different meanings depending on her inflection and presentation. Pick up a phrase like – ” stop, don’t move ahead”. Now have your child say this phrase using different emotions -excitement, fear, shock, or anger, for example — and make up a scenario in which each expression of the phrase could be appropriately used.

 

5.Ask Open Ended Questions

Open ended questions are when the answer can be a variety of things and not answered by “yes” or “no”. These questions will teach your child how to think “hard” and reason for themselves.

Here are some examples of how to turn simple questions into open ended ones:

A. Question: Did you go to the store?

     Open Ended: Where did you go?

B. Question: Was that book good?

     Open Ended: What did you like about that book?

 

6.Play Fun Games

Play Fun Games

Remember the all-time favourite game of “antaakhshri”? While that was all about thinking of a song on-the-spot, incorporate games like extempore in your routine. Pick up a toy or object and let your child describe it in 1 minute (show & tell).  On a road journey, ask your child to speak about a particular car that he spots or describe the weather outside. It’s all about gaining confidence of speaking on random topics.While watching television together, talk about minute things like body language, articulation, expressions etc.

 

7.Talk Talk Talk

Make the most of daily activities where your child can build his comfort level naturally. For example, the next time your family goes out to eat, encourage him to order his meal from the waiter himself using a loud voice and clear articulation.

 

8.Praise Your Child for Talking

Praise Your Child for Talking

This is another one that needs to be balanced. You don’t need to tell your child how great they are talking after everything they say. Space it out. Tell them at least a few times a day. More when they’re younger. When they call something by the right name, say “Nice talking” or “You’re right that is a…” or “You are such a good talker”. For older children, you might compliment them when they use a new vocabulary word. You might say, “Hey, look at you using such a big vocabulary.”

 

Now, if you ask me when’s the right time to assist your child’s communication skills, I would say the right time to learn any life-skill is N-O-W!

You see, the right time to learn swimming is before you fall in the deep sea. Public speaking is an essential life skill every child needs to learn. If you ever get the right opportunity to pick up this invaluable life-skill from the right person, just don’t wait for the right time! And that would be one of the best investments for your child’s future and he/she will be grateful for your timely guidance.

And one such place that inculcates public speaking in children in a fun and natural way is Dolphin POD. Their carefully curated content and methodology, based on neuro-scientific methods, is aimed at makingchildren smarter, healthier, happier and better equipped to operate in the constantly evolving, ambitious and cohesive society. The pedagogy they follow of Play, Communication and Downtime involve activities and classes that helpchildren develop as confident and smart public speakers.

To know more about Dolphin POD and their philosophy, click here.

Being comfortable talking to others- whether one-on-one or in front of a group- will allow kids to better convey information, appear more confident, and make stronger social connections. And this acquired poise and increased command of public speaking will not only help them in school, but also empower them in any situation they encounter in life.

Source: Go Mommy!

 

Dec 21, 2017

A Sneak Peek into Asia’s First Life Skill Development Centre – Dolphin POD

Our little ones are constantly growing, learning and evolving, every single day of their lives. But children don’t need to be sitting behind a desk or computer screen to learn new skills. As parents, we need to nurture and inspire our child’s innate intelligence by empowering them to be self motivated through social connection, positive communication, critical thinking, creative expression and purposeful contribution- basically the 5 Cs that comprise the Consciousness Quotient of Life Skill.
Source : Go Mommy
Dec 15, 2017

Five Basic Life Skills Your Child Must Learn

As a mother I am always on a look out for something extra when it comes to the health of my children or their education and learning. Think of those health drinks- the ones that promise an extra dose of nutrition to boost your child’s health. Or those summer camps and art & craft classes- the ones that are categorised as ‘extra’ curricular activities. But what about those extra life skills that our children need to lead a successful, content and happy life?
Source : Go Mommy
Nov 16, 2017

Are You Parenting ‘The Dolphin Way’?

-Shimi K Kang (author and psychiatrist)

Many of the prevalent parenting styles today describe parents that “take over.” Whether it is the Tiger parent pushing piano, the Helicopter parent hovering over homework, the Bubble Wrap parent over-protecting, or the Snow-Plough parent shoving all obstacles out of the way — all of these models create an environment of external control and thereby diminish a child’s sense of internal control and self-motivation. Thus, I call ALL these styles “Tiger parents” because they are all authoritarian in nature. Children of such authoritarian tiger parents are at higher risk of anxiety, depression, entitlement, poor decision making, and difficulty establishing healthy independence.

On the other extreme, permissive Jellyfish parents’ lack rules, discipline, and expectations. Children of Jellyfish parents may turn to peers for guidance and fail to develop self-control. They are at higher risk of poor social skills, risk-taking behaviors, and substance abuse. Many modern parents flip-flop between Tiger and Jellyfish leaving their child with no consistent message.

The Dolphin Way is an intuitive approach that uses role modelling, guiding, and a healthy lifestyle to help children develop internal control and self-motivation. The Dolphin Way has two distinct parts: 1) A balanced authoritative parent-child relationship and 2) a balanced lifestyle, including what many of today’s kids are missing-play and exploration, a sense of community and contribution, and the basics of regular sleep, exercise, and rest. The very basics of Dolphin POD technique and it’s life skill program. These are the things Dolphins do every day that keep them healthy, happy, and motivated!

We all feel more motivated when we have had some sleep vs. being sleep deprived, I still spend a lot of time prescribing sleep to kids and parents alike. Other intrinsic motivators like play, exploration, social bonding, and helping others may be less obvious but they are just as effective in bringing us that sense of well-being.

Parents must stop overscheduling, overprotecting, and being over-competitive to allow their children the time and space to activate their own intrinsic motivators.

The Dolphin Way is based on the neuroscience of how the human brain works so if you are a human, it is guaranteed to work! Here are some guiding principles.

The Seven Guiding Principles of the Dolphin Way:

1. All parents love their children, but not all are bonded to their children. Bonding means seeing and knowing children for who they really are as individuals. Dolphin parents know the most effective and powerful parenting tool.

2. Dolphin parents are not authoritarian pushing parents or hovering Tiger parents (who stifle internal motivation) nor are we permissive spineless Jellyfish (who fail to cultivate impulse control),we recognize we are authority figures and use guidance, role modelling, and a balanced lifestyle to ensure the development of internal motivation, impulse control, and independence.

3. Dolphin parents know that health always comes first and thus we make a balanced lifestyle a priority. We do not compromise balance for anything and we bring back the three things many of today’s kids are missing. These can be remembered through P.O.D. = free unstructured Play, a sense of connection and contribution to Others, and Downtime of rest and sleep.

4. Dolphin parents do not live in fear of modern day pressures and we do not over-gather, over-protect, and over-compete. We believe life is a journey through ever-changing waters and cultivate internal motivation and the ability to adapt to navigate the challenges and opportunities of a rapidly changing 21st century.

5. Dolphin parents value IQ, EQ and especially CQ. CQ is the integration of IQ and EQ and are the core 21st century skills of creativity, communication, collaboration, contribution and critical thinking — all needed to constantly adapt for lifelong health, happiness, and success. Dolphin POD focuses on the development of these 5 Consciousness quotient skills.

6. Dolphin parents are holistic in our parenting. We look inward towards our intuition for answers and we also we seek knowledge and learn from others. We make decisions that “feel right” for our families and not because of “what everyone else is doing”.

7. Dolphin parents have the highest of expectations for our children and intend to guide them towards health, happiness, and a balanced life with meaning and purpose.

Although The Dolphin Way is called a “parent’s guide,” any human can benefit from it. The metaphor of the overbearing Tiger, permissive Jellyfish, and collaborative Dolphin can be applied to any interpersonal interaction — including the workplace. The neuroscience of how the human brain is naturally motivated is something that anyone can benefit from, and is something I speak frequently about at corporations, banks, and businesses. In a fast paced, ultra-competitive, and globally connected 21st century world, The Dolphin Way provides us the tools to stay balanced and acquire creativity, collaboration, communication, and critical thinking (CQ) – these skills are the key essentials for futuristic leaders. Dolphin POD works in collaboration to aim at a holistic development of kids and a guide to parents.

 

Nov 09, 2017

Downtime: Is your Child Getting Enough Real Downtime?

Children’s lives these days are fast-paced. With the increase in technology and various electronic gadgets, they no longer know how to give rest to their brain. Even in the free time, children of the 21st century indulge themselves with Xbox, mobiles, tablets or watching TV.
But where is the downtime? The time to just relax and enjoy their own company?

For most kids, life is far too fast-paced and overscheduled. They’re juggling homework, extracurricular activities, play dates and birthday parties.
And when a parent is told that their child needs downtime, the response usually is he is getting enough of it. He plays video games 2 hours or watches TV.
The surprise for most parents is, that this is not actually downtime. When a child is sitting in front of the screen or is indulged in games, he/she is still making optimum use of his critical thinking, problem solving and reasoning. The mind is still at work. This is one of the reasons that a child is unable to sleep properly or be attentive because scientifically brain needs time to be idle and kids are missing out on that aspect these days. The activity that they partake in are over exhausting rather than calming and the wavelength from them triggers the mind to stay active than retire.

Children these days are often bored easily because of their innate need to do something at all times. Practically proven that if a child is being asked to sit idle for 5mins that is the most difficult task to accomplish. Children need a little time with themselves in order to understand their emotions. Only when they understand it will they be able to comprehend and manage it.

Children nowadays are at higher risk of anxiety and depression due to lack of relaxation time. Kids – and especially teens – aren’t adept at regulating their own time, often sleeping too little and packing in too many activities. True downtime is an important opportunity to de-stress and relax.

Everything these days has become structured even the play. Kids have lost the sense of taking up tasks which has no instructions but are for the wellbeing. It is very important for the child to indulge in unstructured quiet times to understand their traits and nature in order for a brain development and emotional wellbeing.
If you see your child sleeping less, or having a lot of tantrums or is lazy, or moody, then it is time for you to re-evaluate his downtime to help him feel calm, happy and relaxed.

We at Dolphin POD, give immense focus on Downtime Activities which will help kids be successful, self-motivated with ease and no stress making them realize their potential to be great visionaries.