Becoming a Successful Parent through Future Fit Learning

Contemporary parenting is hard! Bombarded with expert advices & societal expectations, we have an ‘information overload’ because of an increased access to understanding how others parent. Just when we think we’ve got it ‘right’ someone will cast doubt into our minds, because what is right for some is not right for others. Indeed, the responsibility of raising healthy, happy, successful future-fit children can sometimes feel overwhelming for parents.

Add to this the fact that the dynamics of education, learning, work and living is changing. It may be a truism that the future will be different, but with rapid development of artificial intelligence and digital systems in the 21st Century, I see no reason to not believe that almost every aspect of our children’s lives will be different to ours.

So, when we know that the future of work & life is going to look very different, why not be ready for it? Why not prepare our children to be future-fit?

With a vision to transform learning and raising future-ready kids, at Dolphin POD key 21st century skills like Creativity, Critical thinking, Communication, Contribution & Collaboration are delivered with an aim to make personal and professional achievement easier.

Through their research-based activities, it’s not only children who cultivate these 5 critical achievement centre to be future fit, but also Parents get ample opportunities to be successful in raising children who are future ready. Here’s how:

1. Match your parenting style to your child’s personality

Families today face increasing time pressures with both parents working, and more expectations on children to perform at school (not to forget the added distractions of technology). Well, welcome to modern parenting! With budgeted time and limited opportunities, an effective way of helping our children to be future ready is by understanding how to maintain a constructive engagement with them. From learning through exploring to connecting with each other to relaxing & recharging, POD sessions can help you learn explore the broader horizon in your child’s learning curve and will let you get more involved in your child’s learning experience.

Match your parenting style
engage with your child

2. Learn how to engage with your child

Families today face increasing time pressures with both parents working, and more expectations on children to perform at school (not to forget the added distractions of technology). Well, welcome to modern parenting! With budgeted time and limited opportunities, an effective way of helping our children to be future ready is by understanding how to maintain a constructive engagement with them. From learning through exploring to connecting with each other to relaxing & recharging, POD sessions can help you learn explore the broader horizon in your child’s learning curve and will let you get more involved in your child’s learning experience.

3. Gain confidence

Let’s face it- being a parent requires a whole lot of mustering courage. In fact, confidence is crucial to good parenting. And it is equally critical in raising future-fit children. Through research-based activities conducted at Dolphin POD, as a Parent you get confidence in the exposure and activities your child experiences, so you can telegraph that confidence to kids.

Gain confidence
Stay updated of the latest research

4. Stay updated of the latest research

As a busy parent, it can be hard to stay up-to-date on the latest scientific findings, but it’s so important to learn what you should be doing to set your children future ready. Research findings, scientific discoveries etc. pave path for good parenting skills and help finding answers.

At Dolphin POD, the 90-minute POD sessions are coupled with one-on-one sessions with parents to keep them updated not just about their child’s performance but also helps Parents stay abreast of discoveries and latest findings. One not only gets to learn about best parenting practices from experts but also get a chance to ask them their parenting concerns and questions.

Over the years, one thing has remained same when it comes to Parenting: there is immense pressure to keep up with the unrealistic and often unhealthy expectations that we, as parents, put on ourselves and feel from others. Some of these pressures have always been a part of the parenting journey, but there continues to be more and more pressure bombarding parents today.

Now amidst all this, wouldn’t it be comforting to have someone’s undivided attention, especially when you’re pouring out your heart and unpacking all the layers. With the age-specific after-school activities offered at Dolphin POD, you can be assured of your child’s development in the right environment and ideal direction to grow up as healthy, happy and successful adults of the 21st century.

Ways to help kids overcome fear of failure

You have cooed, cuddled and coddled your babies since birth and raised them with tags like Superman or Power Puff Girl. Well, to every parent their child is the winner!

But then there comes the time of reality check- your little one is growing up, getting familiar with the school of hard knocks. From not winning fancy dress competition to failing getting a grip on the bicycle

to forgetting his lines at the school play…It’s hard to see your little champ fail & get hurt.

As parents, we want to protect our children from anyone or anything that could cause them pain: illness, injury, hurtful words or situations. In a way, we don’t want them to feel the pain associated with failing because we know how it feels. As an over-protective loving parent, you want nothing more than to intervene and make his troubles go away. However, we also know that the best lessons in life are learned through experience. If we don’t let them fall, how will they learn how to get back up? And if we don’t let them fail, how will they learn to pick themselves up and try again?

The process of making and learning from mistakes is an extremely valuable life skill because learning involves risking. Every time children risk, they will not always be right. But, because they’ve tried something new, there’s always the chance they will succeed. Each new success enhances self-esteem. Each esteem-enhancing experience refuels their desire to try again and again and again.

 

Going back to our own childhood, I am sure you would agree that fear of failure ties down the mind. It makes a child mentally weak and tired. In fact, it can make them incapable of achieving anything in life, even though they are capable of reaching the highest levels of success.

But then avoiding failure in life is almost impossible, right?

So how can we as parents help erase the idea that ‘mistakes are bad’? How can we maintain that thin line between protecting our kids from pain and teaching them to handle it; between supporting them where they are and challenging them to stretch themselves; between encouraging them to ‘play to win’ and preparing them to handle failure.

Redefine the Meaning of failure

Instead of making it sound big, scary and end-of-life kind of situation, show your children that failure is more about self-development than about defeat. Start drilling this into them from an early age, so that it’s the rule rather than the exception in their books. Introduce the concept of ‘trial & error’ and ‘learning & adapting’ in every activity kids indulge in, whether it’s sports, art, music, learning to eat, writing, talking and walking.

How about defining failure as ‘not trying’? As Parents one can stress upon the fact that the only way to fail is to not try. As parents of today, redefine the meaning of failure for kids as-

  • Cheating, lying, not taking responsibility for themselves is failure.
  • Not giving their best effort or not doing what is in their interest is failure.
  • Looking out for short cuts to do work or getting influenced by peer pressure Is failure.
  • Disrespecting elders, not being empathetic to others and being selfish is failure.

Develop the concept of “Plan B”

Let’s face it- one of the inevitable facts of life is that everyone makes mistakes. But we know that there always exists a worst-case scenario. Start practicing this with your child. Sit and brainstorm together for “what if” situations. Ask them questions- “What if you fumble while reciting the poem…or miss the goal, what’s the worst thing that could happen?”. Eventually kids learn the skill of handling a situation with a several possible ways out.

Develop the concept of “Plan B”
Encourage self-sufficiency

Encourage self-sufficiency

Today’s overprotective, failure-avoiding parenting has undermined the competence, independence and academic potential of an entire generation. I’m as guilty as most of you- I’ve extended my children’s dependence in order to feel good about my parenting. Something as basic as lacing up their shoes to packing their school bag sends the message to your child that they’re slow and incompetent. So instead of being a savior, be a guide for your child. This will build self-confidence and bring happiness when one is able to see one’s achievements through trying and learning from mistakes or obtaining what was deemed impossible.

Encourage Positive Self-talk

Fear of failure is a psychological phenomenon. In such a case, encouraging and positive words help raise self-confidence and motivation. That works like nutritious tonic to your children. If you notice your child is very tense and concerned about making mistakes, help him/her learn to say inside his/her head a positive, affirming statement such as ‘I am calm and in control’ or ‘I will try my best’. The more your child says the statement, the more he/she will begin to believe it.

More Self-talk phrases can be: “I can do it”; “I am capable”; “I have the ability”; “I am as good as my classmates”.

Encourage Positive Self-talk
Have Conversations about Success and Failure of Famous Personalities

Have Conversations about Success and Failure of Famous Personalities

Did you know Theodor Seuss Geisel, better known as Dr. Seuss, had his first book rejected by 27 different publishers? Well, look around and you would see the most successful adults are rarely those whose childhood were one long string of victories, accolades and gold stars. Rather they’re people who’ve had their share of bumps, bruises and battles along their path to adulthood. With grit, confidence and clear vision, they stretched and went beyond failures to pursue their dreams. Talk about such personalities with your kids. See documentaries, TED Talks and make them believe that failure is an event not a person. Have Conversations about Success and Failure of Famous Personalities

As parents, we’re wired with an inbuilt desire to protect our children from the harder realities of life whether the sting of rejection or the disappointment of failure. But left unchecked, this can deprive them from learning the most important life skill, and one they will inevitably need: how to find the courage and motivation to get back up. So how do you help kids fail, or rather, how do you help kids deal with fear of failure?

When learning a new skill, like public speaking or playing chess, there are many steps children may find difficult to execute. If we allow them to struggle and let them fail, we may be surprised to discover they can find a solution themselves. At Dolphin POD, the activities are designed to provide an appropriate level of challenge. Activities that shouldn’t frustrate children and offer a balanced approach towards learning with elements of Play (P), Others (O) & Downtime (D). This gives them a sense of accomplishment they can be proud of and can call their own.

The more children try, fail, and try again, the more they will learn how to solve problems, overcome adversity and to deal with failure; all critical life skills that will be needed to grow up as happy, healthy and successful beings.

By RoopikaSareen (Parenting blogger- Go Mommy)